Roselily by Alice Walker:
Initially I felt bad for the gentle man the main character was marring because it seemed she was doing it to use him. I think what stood out to me was the point of view because she was thinking one thing while the guy was thinking completely differently. This story did not really make me think of one point in my life or part of my life. However, it did make me think collectively about why I do commit to things in my life.
Walker uses point of view and setting in "Roselily" to show how women should not get stuck with all the burden of commitment. Using setting by having the preacher give the christian wedding ceremony while the bride was thinking about her future life showed how she was committing for the wrong reasons. The brides point of view on what her future would hold was not really what she wanted but her past was full of prior commitments that did not work out. The bride stated that she just wanted out of the life she was living and was ironically not really committing with her heart to the marriage. Walker cutting in with what the man is thinking showed that his point of view is almost the same as the brides. They were both doing it because it was expected for them to play house. The bride only knew that he kissed her differently then the other men in her life. So she committed one more time for the wrong reason in one of the most holy of settings.
Do you feel it is important to marry solely for love or for love and what the other person can bring to the marriage?
I believe you should marry for love only but sometimes people just have to survive.
ReplyDeleteI believe that you do have to marry for love. And in this story he did love her, and he wanted a wife, I don't think he very much cared if she loved him back or not. Maybe its me thinking modernly but if you love a person, you don't take their freedom away, and he was going to take all her beliefs away and he was going to raise them the way that he wanted. It felt more like she was going to be imprisoned rather than set free from her burdens. I think he knew that she wasn't going to like the new lifestyle that she was going to have but he loved her and he thought that that might be best for her, and she just wanted to see/feel what it was like to be married, especially when she said something that "she isn't going to be younger or youthful pure" something like that i cant remember the exact words.
ReplyDeleteObviously we all want to marry someone that we love, not someone who we don’t have feelings for. That's going to affect the family, especially the kids. And I see what she was trying to go from there, finding a man that can support the family and that‘s what a mother suppose to do.
ReplyDeleteI kind of felt like the groom did love her, that he genuinely wanted to take care of her and her family so that she didn't have to struggle anymore. Roselily didn't know if she loved him, and I think ultimately she was going through with the marriage because she knew it would be better for her children to grow up in a more stable environment. I felt bad for the groom because I'm sure he could see the look on her face as she's thinking all of these worried, anxious thoughts in the middle of their wedding.
ReplyDeletei would say that love consists of love and what the other person has to bring to the relationship. in a short run, i guess love in everything; both will love each other thinking that they will survive with love. but in a long run, it does matter what your partner has to offer to the relationship; i do not mean economic support, but which role your partner is going to play whether it is house wife, bread winner, etc. both has to bring something to the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI do believe that people should marry for love but back in those days people were poor and as for her she was a single mother. And as for a mothers perspective i would do anything for my child even if it means sacrificing my life for theirs.So is she wrong yes but to her thats how she believes will help her children have a better life.
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